Are you your worst enemy? Lisa Kleypas wrote, “You are your own worst enemy. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.” When you think of what you want to accomplish in life, what are your thoughts? Whether it is, “Can I really get that job and make that kind of money,” “What if I try this out and it doesn’t work,” or “how can I really make my dreams come true” then you have already sabotaged your dreams. You have single handily aborted your mission. Uncertainty plants doubt and doubt will always be a dream killer.
Success first begins in the way that we see ourselves and the way that we see ourselves is usually the method in which we make decisions for our goals and future. Honestly, I can say that I am guilty of being uncertain on a lot of things. It is bad because I don’t even realize it when I’m doing it. One of my closest friends had to point it out to me. I love that I have someone that will keep it real with me and I am proud that am open to constructive criticism. She told me that instead being decisive and sure of myself, I would use words like “I guess” or “I think so” when I knew for sure the answer to own my questions. Why is that? Why is it so much uncertainty? The lack of confidence in me is definitely one answer to this baffling question. Not wanting to mess up or knowing the fate of my decision is a little terrifying. Let’s face it we all have made some dumb decisions, but getting over them to move forward positively is challenging.
There are things that I want to accomplish in life and there are goals that I want to fulfill. Without a fail proof plan, how do I get to where I want in life or accomplish my goals? This is where my uncertainty and self doubt comes into play. My plan now is to write my plans down and learn to accept that everything will not always go the exact way that I want it, but with hard work, consistency, and confidence I can do anything.
The best thing you can do is believe in you. Don’t be your own worst enemy. Instead of giving yourself reasons on why you can’t, give your reason on why you can!